LOVE, MARRIAGE & FAMILY: COLD OVENS CAN'T BAKE BREAD
who can bake
after the heat
in the oven
is long gone?
Even the 'masterest' chef can't bake cake in an oven that has no heat. It is as impossible as turning pimples into dimples by mere wishing (unless you wan use juju). Anyway, bottom line is that the cake wont be baked unless there is heat.
Sadly, the children of these days are baked in the oven of families which are loosing heat or even frozen. Hence they come out half cooked, irresponsible men and uncultured women...
Therefore, Children should not grow up seeing their father executing a daily remold of their mother's face while their mother reciprocated with constant mouth-washing and torment. They grow up warped, bitter and damaged.
It is not their fault that they turn out how they are, but the cross is theirs to bear for life.
Growing up in the midst of a marriage that is closer to Afghanistan than Heaven, it was easy for me (and a thousand others like me) to conclude that marriage is therefore a no go area...
My book #WhatCanWordsDo? adresses this in the very first chapter with a number of poem penned from personal experiences and that of others.
The first poem is title ' WEDDED AND WEEDED'.
It is a pun, a story of what marriage has become: Yesterday, smiling before the priest, Today, punching and scratching each other and Tomorrow, divorced and bitter...
He wore a tie, she wore a veil.
And yes, I looked, no face was pale
As both of them walked down the aisle
In sweet rehearsed musical style.
He shouts and throws two angry fists,
She cries in pain but can't resist.
His hardened knuckles punch and scrape
And leave her pretty face reshaped.
They'll go with bulging files - not rings-
Each filled with pain from verbal stings.
And none of them will bare their grudge
Even as, mute, they’ll face the judge!
~ excerpts from WEDDED AND WEEDED
I, like many before me, have failed to find a working alternative to love, marriage and family. I therefore came to the conclusion that we have no option than to continue it...the option we have is to make our own relationships work.
I have pledged to myself to do all I can to make mine work..what about you?