MY 2KOBO OPINION ON (NIGERIAN) LADIES PROPOSING TO A MAN

First of all, before you ever let yourself get carried away by ‘love’ and the modern trend of ‘women too should be able to propose’ you must first come to terms with the fact that we are Africans, and the current crop of eligible bachelors have not been weaned off patriarchy.
Our age grade grew up being fed with ‘be the man’ mantras and we are still patriarchal, even though we profess gender equality and liberalism on our lips. The honest truth is that the average Nigerian (young) man that is between the ages of 18 to 40 is still largely patriarchal to varying degrees.

Now, to the proposing itself, if you must do it:
  1. Be 101 % sure of the man’s quest in your garden – that what he wants from you is MARRIAGE, not just a relationship. Sadly bur true, many guys are just in for the sex and saying the sweet things to keep the window open. 
  2. Be 101 % sure that he is financially ready to marry you – even your attempt at marrying him with your money can cause a man to panic and feel emasculated 
  3. Be 101 % sure that he has let go of his extra baggage – the honest truth is that most guys have extra baggage which have different sizes of boobs and ass sizes/shapes. You may not be 1st choice. 
  4. Be 101% sure his family and your family are already in the know – don’t propose to a guy when your families are still in the dark about your secret doings. Biko! 


Now, even when you are sure of the above, there is still a need for insurance and this should come in the following ways:
  1. Location: please don’t do it in public. I mean, what do you gain with public displays? It just doesn’t cut it (for me). You can display your ring in public after he says yes in private 
  2. Preparation: Don’t shock him with the question. Even if he loved you, the sudden question can destabilize a man, especially where he is still asking the question of ‘to be or not to be’ about you. So trafficate before you enter his lane 
  3. Time: Please make it in the evening when the sun has gone down, so that even if people will record, at least your face will not show. LOL. 
Lastly may I ask this question: When a woman says ‘marry me’ to a man, is she saying indirectly that she will fund the marriage (as most guys would do) or is she expecting the guy to say ‘yes’ and then double up his hustle to get the wedding/marriage going? I need answers.

In conclusion, ladies, temper love with caution.

PS: IF YOU WANT TO PROPOSE TO ME, MAKE SURE YOU HAVE SHITLOADS OF MONEY.

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  3. 😂😂 I agree that most Nigerian men have not been weaned off patriarchy. As to shocking the man, even women are shocked. But honestly though, who does public proposal benefit?

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